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Blog 1:Part One and Two

Pt One, Option 1

 The textbook definition of Communication Competence is communicating in ways that are effective and appropriate for a given situation (Floyd, pg 25). 

To be both effective and appropriate would mean to communicate in such a way that is clear and concise as well as acceptable in a social normative situation. This way of communicating is able to achieve goals and follows the rules and regulations of any given social situation. For anyone it is possible to be one without the other. Depending on social and cultural norms one person's preferences and socially acceptable behavior may be accepted by one individual and not another. Self-monitoring is defined as awareness of one's behavior and how it affects others (Floyd, pg 26). This is a vital tool to keep in your tool box. Practicing self-monitoring makes one a competent communicator. Some examples of communication competence would be for a job interview, having a formal tone, proper grammar, maintaining eye contact, proper attire, and a more formal vocabulary. 

Pt Two, Option 1

 

As a young child around four years old my identity was bestowed upon me. “Big Sister”. This title would define me and every single decision I made for years to come. As the oldest female a lot was expected of me. I was the practice child, and then played second parent to three children other than myself. I was expected to babysit, to cook dinner, to clean and to make sure the children were taken care of. My own needs were not important. As a teen I was expected to work and buy my own wants and needs. My mother was absent, so I was forced to step in. As the oldest I also experienced the most trauma. My siblings, two boys one 4 years younger, one five years younger, and a sister eight years younger than myself, were not held to the same standards. Every decision I made impacted their own emotion, and they learned from my mistakes. A hard truth, how I behaved and modeled affected them. Were not from a culture with many set values or traditions but gender roles were present. I was raised by a single mother who bad-mouthed any pleasant male role model. As I've gotten older I've realized the hardships I had to endure were not reciprocated or expected of anyone besides myself. I’ve come to realize that although I was raised one way, they were raised another, and my child will be raised differently from that. The craving for familiarity I believe is biological, but the older I've gotten the more in tune to my environment it is easier to just cut people off. The environment you thrive in will top biology. Just like the best environment for a child, may not be one from a biological family. We are all products of our environment, not just genetics. I believe some things are built in instincts but as to why you are the way you are, that is primarily environmental.

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